Beginners Guide to Safe BDSM
Fetish fashions like leather corsets and straps are fairly common in mainstream culture today. People wearing them can be found on almost any brothel, nude pictorials, magazines and adult videos. They are also available on any adult stores worldwide. While BDSM, the subculture that created these fashions remain in the shadows, a mystery or taboo to most people.
What is BDSM?
BDSM is a mix of 3 abbreviations BD, DS and SM which means Bondage and Discipline, Dominance and Submission, Sadism and Masochism. All have sadistic acts that are performed or fantasized by many. It reflects tremendous desires of domination towards their partner. The dominating performer of BDSM is called the “dominant /master / mistress” and the one restrained is called a “submissive / slave”. There is also a “switch” in BDSM. A switch is person that can be both submissive and dominant. The reason why BD, DS and SM are considered as one and called BDSM is because the overlay between the three is great. This also means that in BDSM you can find different kinds of people who practice such sexual acts.
Why Practice BDSM?
These acts range from behavior that is not physically harmful although it may be humiliating for the others. The practice may involve spitting on the face, defecating and urinating all over the body. Most people find this foul and disturbing while other people with different taste see this as an act of dominance and submission.
The simplest form of BDSM is by imprisonment or binding the movement of the partner using handcuffs, ball and chains and ropes to restrain the movement of the other person. These acts can be used by married couples that are looking of a new excitement into their life.
Discover New Sensation through Pain
The most common reason why people indulge themselves to this painful and suffocating act is because they seeking for fresh erotic sensation. Being blindfolded and tied up while your partner ravages you adds a different experience than the traditional love making. It can make the body hot and the sensation is entirely different. You noticed that sometimes a bite simple spank when having sex can make a big difference in your mood.
Open-minded people embrace BDSM practices because it revs up their private moments. For them it’s almost the same with sex, only much better. It’s fun, exciting and can deliver a whole new emotional thrill that can help strengthen a relationship. We’ve seen a couple do it so many times and the result is always the same. They have a great time, a little scary but that is the main purpose, to get the hearth pounding and experience heavy breathing while making love.
Danger in Practicing BDSM
For other people with more sadistic personalities they enjoy painful and really dangerous practices like paddling, spanking, beating, whipping, cutting, rape and even electrical shocks. But we do not recommend this acts until you are experienced enough to do experiment.
You may not know it but if you get addicted to these sadistic acts, you can fatally hurt your partner. So, a proper control over your emotions is highly advised. People with too much addiction to sadistic acts are diagnose and considered to have psychological symptoms. If uncontrolled, it can lead to serious injury or death for the other person.
BDSM is Different in Abuse
The practice looks really painful and yes because they are real. The Difference of BDSM between abuse is that in BDSM both master and slave have consented each other. They talked beforehand on what to do and what things to use. They also have signals if ever they have reached the limit and can’t continue with the process. Disregarding the signals can create a catastrophic ending for the restrained person. As a master or mistress, it is your responsibility to know when to stop if your partner cannot continue because of difficulty in breathing and too much exhaustion.
How to Explore BDSM with your Partner?
Many people think of these practices sick, scary, perverted and unjust. This is one of the main reasons why you can’t easily bring up the subject with your partner. Also the fear that your partner will think differently of you is a huge obstacle. You can’t really tell if your partner is against the idea or not so the best time to ask is when both of you are having sex. Ask your partner if he/she wants to try something different and exciting. Don’t scare your partner by showing whips and nipple clamps right away. Start by simple rope binding or handcuffs, then a little spanking to add dominating experience.
If you’ve already talked about this with your partner, then that’s good news for you. You’ve not only found a partner for your new fantasies, you’ve also discovered what kind of experience you really want to receive when having sex.
How to execute BDSM Safely
You want to explore new environment, new things to play and new thrills in your sex life. Even though there is great danger in practicing BDSM, below are some tips on how a beginner like you can execute BDSM properly and safely.
- Study the practices – First of all, learn the techniques on how to have submissive sex experience. There are tons of books online you can get information about BDSM.
- Get some perspective – There are no books and no real standards in practicing BDSM. They have their own insights about the practice. But you can read blogs, adult magazines and some books that contain real experiences from people who go DBSM groups.
- Know the limit – As a master / mistress, you must be aware of heavy breathing of your partner. Know their limit so that it will not end into a terrible accident. Since you don’t have enough experience start with mild practices like blind folding and rope binding, slapping, spanking and mild choking.
- Take it slow – There is no need to rush into things. If you are getting too much excited, as a beginner you might forget your partner’s limit. Remember that while you’re enjoying the situation everything is different for the restrained person.
- Explore – Explore new things by watching videos to discover new techniques and excitements. Do it if you think you can execute it properly, if you have even little doubts, don’t do it!
- Be in the right mind – Even you feel like you’re the master of the house, you partner is still a human. You must be sane and not under any alcoholic drinks or drugs.
- Health Conditions – People with health problems like epilepsy, heart problem, asthma, hearing problems and other internal body irregularities should not do BDSM.
- Ask a professional – BDSM is a discrete practices that is not a regular thing to share with your family and friends. There are many people against it and think lowly on people practicing it. If you have contacts on a professional master or mistress of BDSM, ask for tips on how to execute submissive sex acts safely.
BDSM can be fun, erotic, emotional, and, of course, arousing when you have the right mental and physical tools. For starters, you can get a rope, hand cuffs, leather cuffs, paddle and nipple clips or clamps to work with. You can also participate to BDSM group meetings or “Munch” as they call it. It is a casual lunch or dinner where the attendees have interest or experience in BDSM and Fetish practices. You can surf online for events that are open to new members. Usually meetings are held in a restaurant where demonstrations or even fetish wear is not permitted. This is just a get together of the local people to know each other share experiences and new ideas.
You can use different name and wear normal clothes when attending BDSM group meetings. There are some instances where they held munches to private places. See to it, that you can attend because you will learn more things about BDSM and better if you can see it up close personally.
Enjoy your new fantasies with your partner by adding flavor into play like wearing costumes, leathers and use of adult toys for foreplay. Most adult stores have BDSM kits for beginners. Collect them all, mix and match them on for your erotic pleasures. Many couples who practices BDSM believed that their relationship have gained a strong foundation. We hope your new escapade has the same positive effect with your life.
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